I was married for 40years. I had to start taking SS at age 62 to take care of my husband. My husband started SS at 65. He then passed away three years later. He was at a much higher payment than i. So it was reduced bc, I had to take it before I wanted to. What really doesn't make sense is my sister was able to draw off of her first husband that she divorced when her second husband died. I think the SS should make it fair for someone who should be drawing a spouse's SS.
I'm sorry for your loss.