My girlfriend is 59 and widowed and no children. She has met a wonderful man and wants to remarry. Her mother,in her 80's, keeps telling her if she remarries she will loose money, and be unable to collect her deceased spouse's social security. I know that she probably has put in more money into SS than her deceased husband. We have tried to look online to answer this question, but it is confusing. What is the deal with collecting deceased SS?