Boyfriend and I have been together 40 yes can we qualify for our ss without being married

Hi,

You and your boyfriend could potentially qualify for any Social Security benefits to which you're entitled based on your own earnings histories, but it's unlikely that you could qualify for spousal or survivor benefits on each other's records. However, if your relationship is recognized as a legal marriage under state law, such as a common-law marriage, you may then be able to qualify for spousal or survivor benefits.

Best, Jerry